Hi John,
Wow sounds like you have a serious case of newbikeitis.
On the weight front, as others have said the frame might not be the best place to start.
The unicrown Thorn disc fork you linked might be lighter but I doubt there's much in it.
The Surly frame will use ordinary cro-moly tubing rather than the heat-treated supersteel in the frame you have. Likely it wont feel as lively.
I'm astonished by the liveliness and comfort of the Mercury frame, and with 853 and 725 tubing in fairly fine wall thicknesses and TIG welded, it will be as light as anything made in steel for disc brakes and 40mm+ tures, IMO.
So if I wanted lighter I would be looking at other components and accessories.
There is only so far you can go though.
Marin makes an all-carbon gravel-friendly derailleur drop-bar bike called the Headlands 2 that comes with 700cx40mm tyres.
https://www.bicycling.com/bikes-gear/a32175095/marin-headlands-2-review/With pedals it weighs about 10kg. Thats no mudguards, rack or lights, and a plastic seat.
My Merc as used weighs 13.8kg. That's with Brooks leather seat, full mudguards, rear rack, hub dynamo and headlamp.
As a rough calculation I reckon I could save 250g on replacing the seat, 550 on dumping the rack, 650 on dumping the mudguards, and 350 on replacing the front hub and dumping the headlamp.
That's a saving of 1.8kg just in swapping for comparable spec, bringing the Merc down to 12kg - or 2kg more than the all-carbon Marin.
You could drop another 500g with an all-carbon fork. And more again with lighter cranks, wheelrims and tyres.
The question is whether it's worth the inconvenience, trouble and expense.
I'm lucky to have a brother who has ridden for years with a club on his carbon-framed road bike, and who also rides with me on an ancient Shogun MTB that weighs significantly more than my Thorn and much more than the carbon-tube Trek I rode previously.
He'll sit and chat to me as I granny up a long climb, then will swap to his middle ring and sprint to the top.
I look at him shrink in the distance and think:
shit, that bike's so light.
Then I see the facts staring back at me and they can't be avoided.