Using the Stronglight crank with a road wheel should be fine.
As you say, the chainline for the crank is 45mm, which is the same as Shimano road triple cranks.
The rear derailleur doesn't have its own chainline, it hangs off the drop-out, so its distance from the centre-line depends on the wheel width. The chainline is determined by the hub and cassette.
For a road wheel (130mm) it will be about 43-45mm, depending on the exact spacing between the smallest sprocket and the locknut face. A mountain bike wheel is 5mm wider, so the chainline will be 2.5mm larger.
There is a small difference between 9 and 10 speed cassettes, but it's in the noise.
On a road bike, I don't use the smallest chainring much, so a couple of mm smaller chainline on the crank is actually an advantage, as it means the biggest ring will have marginally better alignment.
Chainline differences of a few mm don't matter really, if you think about the misalignment when you are using either extreme of the cassette. The cassettes are over 30mm wide, so you will be seeing 10mm+ misalignment, even if you avoid cross-chaining.
Other questions:
Road and MTB front derailleurs have different pull ratios, so you must use a road derailleurs with road STI levers. Doesn't matter with bar-ends, as they are not indexed on the left.
You can use 9-speed MTB cassettes with road shifters. I'm not sure about 10-speed, I think they may be incompatible.
The latest Shimano 10-speed groups have an 11-28 cassette, so their road derailleurs can cope with that. There is also a MTB 9-speed 11-28 cassette, which I find works well with a 48-36-26 crankset.
Otherwise you can use MTB rear derailleur. The latest "Shadow" models don't have a barrel adjuster, though, so you would have to improvise something.
Bar-end shifters are very forgiving, and you can always turn off indexing if it plays up.
I'd be a bit more inclined to go for a 9-speed setup. The tolerances are a bit fine on the 10-speed, and the chains are more finicky. I've never broken a chain on 9-speed, but broke my new plastic bike's chain the first time I went up a real hill. Probably a shoddy job by the bike shop, but I still had to call for help.
Some references on chainline:
http://www.sheldonbrown.com/chainline.htmlhttp://www.sheldonbrown.com/bbsize.htmlhttp://www.parktool.com/blog/repair-help/chainline-concepts